When it comes to women and sex, how a woman feels about herself, her life, her partner, and her relationship all factor into whether she feels like having sex. Unlike men, where thinking about sex translates to erection, arousal in some women may start during or even after lovemaking begins. Prior to love making a woman has many thoughts not only about sex but about her relationship. “Are we ready to have sex? Is he committed to me? Will he like my body? Does he think I’m sexy?”
All kind of worry
In dating situations, women are thinking about the flow of her relationship and her future, too. “What if I get addicted to this man and then he leaves me?” While women are not as concerned with sexual performance, a woman knows that once she becomes sexually involved, things become more serious for her. While the heat of the moment and her eager male partner may convince a woman to have sex, she knows that due to the release of oxytocin during sex she must also protect her heart. For men, sex is a one-part play. For women in dating, there are three acts: pre-sex worry, during-sex worry, and post-sex worry.
Talk about it
For both men and women, talking about can increase libido. If you are a man, tell your woman how sexy you find her. This will help her get out of her head and any insecurities and into the moment. If she sees you aroused and approaching her with confidence, it’s easier for her to feel her desire. For women, try not to overthink what your male partner wants. Think more about yourself and tell your man what feels good to you. Men take pleasure in pleasuring you. Enjoy yourself and your man will too.
5 Tips for Enhancing Sexual Desire:
- Five Senses: think about how things look, smell, sound, feel, and taste. Light a candle, listen to sexy music, drink some wine.
- Building anticipation: send your partner a sexy little flirt to build heat in your relationship. Tell them you can’t wait to see them later.
- Exercise more: people who are aware of their bodies and exercise generally have higher libidos and are more physical in their love language.
- Stay in the moment: focus on what feels good versus worrying about the past or future.
- Make your romantic life a priority: people who have an orgasm once a week to have better health and sex release stress.