Dr. Diane Strachowski

Licensed Psychologist, E.D.

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Online therapist for clients in California

Body Work

Using polyvagal techniques, I give you exercises you can use at home to calm your nervous system.

Inner Healing

Your inner self projects on your outer self. We’ll work together to get in touch with that inner being.

Talk Therapy

Private virtual one-on-one talk therapy sessions allow you to get personalized, qualified care. 

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Individual Therapy

Having worked in the field of psychology for over 20 years. My specialties include the following:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety, OCD, PTSD & Phobias
  • Eating Disorders
  • Complex Trauma
  • Date Therapy
  • Sleep Disorders

I will work collaboratively with you to better understand your issues. Your treatment plan will be personalized, and I use empirically validated approaches when possible. 

Couples Therapy

In couples therapy my goal is to help the two of you work better together as a couple.  Understanding what you learned from your families, how you cope with stress, and communicate your feelings are the first steps towards deeper understanding. 

Part of therapy is to rediscover what brought you together in the first place. Once there is a deeper understanding of your attachment styles, needs, strengths and areas for improvement,  I will develop a plan for how you can find the love you’re looking for.

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TESTIMONIALS

To protect the anominity of my clients, names have not been used in these testimonials.

To say that Dr. Diane saved my life would not be an over statement. My psychiatrist referred me to Diane after my wife of twenty years suddenly up and left me without a word or an explanation. I was “devastated” to say the least, suicidal and depressed for months. If Diane wasn’t there to help me through it I hate to think what I would have done. Her patient guidance and strong therapy skills made a difference for me in being able to understand my loss and cope with my depression. When I finally got back into the dating world she helped me understand not only how to date, but who might be a good partner for me. She helped me understand things about myself that my ex could never tell me and I am a better partner for it. I’m happy to say I’ve met a wonderful woman, who I’ve brought to Dr. Diane for a little couple’s therapy, I won’t make the same mistakes I did in my first marriage. We’re moving in together and I know if things get difficult I have her to help me. I can’t say enough about her professional skills and astute insight into how people and relationships work. Thanks for saving my life.
"I learned from Dr. Strachowski that change comes from within. It sounds like a cliché, but it's so true. With her guidance, I learned what was really important to me and what was going to make me happy. I was surprised! The answers weren't at all what I expected! Dating in your 40s can be a drag, but working with Diane, I learned it could also be fun and fulfilling. I had a blast dating! And then I met a wonderful man who loves me beyond what I ever could have imagined. But the journey didn't end there. Before we were married, my husband and I turned to Diane for pre-marriage work with our communication that's helped us avoid major pitfalls in our relationship. We have a wonderful and loving marriage. Thank you, Diane for all your help!"
I got referred to Dr. Diane from my primary care doctor. I was struggling in my marriage, while my husband and I were finally on good footing in our marriage I was hanging on to some past issues, or shall I say “insecurities” that were ugly and were holding me back. Within my first session with Dr. Diane she explained the three types of love styles, which made perfect sense to me. I hate to admit she was right, I am anxious, but somehow knowing that has made things easier. When I start to doubt whether my husband loves me, I can hear her in my head asking, “What would a secure person think?” and with that simple question, I can usually come back to reality. Unlike my last therapist she doesn’t let me just vent but holds me responsible for my end of my marriage. I only wished I’d found her sooner, would have saved me a lot of worry and self- doubt.
I attribute a great deal of my success in dating to the cognitive behavioral therapy techniques I learned with Dr. Diane that prepared me to fully engage in the mature and secure relationship I now have.  I met my partner on a dating website that I had been using for about two years.  Over that time Dr. Diane helped me craft and arrange my profiles and photos in a way that attracted my partner whom I am confident I will marry and spend my life with.  My partner told me what stood out was how truthful, straightforward and unique my profile was.
Dr. Diane helped me develop myself, first, into someone who could be in a relationship as a whole, responsible, committed and loving partner.  Her capacities to assess a person’s personality, way of thinking and communicating, background and to anticipate their behavior have been tremendous assets for building and developing my current relationship.  I am deeply grateful and would highly recommend Dr. Diane’s guidance and expertise, not only in preparing for the actualities of dating, but also for the development of yourself as an individual to have you be as ready and open to finding the love you are after.”  My partner and I just got married and I have to thank Dr. D for all her help
I don’t often write reviews on people because I’m private but I have to say that Dr. Diane is the best. A friend of mine knew Dr. Diane personally and told me about her program. I reluctantly went to see her believing that if only my girlfriend could get into therapy our relationship would be better. The truth was I had lots of issues of my own, but didn’t want to look at them. Dr. Diane pushed me to fill out a lot of her forms and I actually got good at them, I learned that so many of my worries and fears were from my childhood and that I could confront things once I had a way to think about them. She also showed me that a lot of the conflict I was having with my girlfriend was a result of our differences. I learned what a secure relationship was and haven’t looked back. While Diane never directly suggested I break up with her the evidence was there, too many fights and lost sleep. She helped me get back into dating, wrote me a great profile and suggested a personal shopper too. I used her statistics and strategies for dating, actually I liked it more than I feared. After dating three women at once-something I never thought I would do. I made a great choice, my girlfriend and I are moving in and I couldn’t be happier. I continue to check in with her though not as frequently we talk about preventing problems, which is music to my ears.
When Dr. Diane called me an independent type I didn’t understand the meaning. I did know up until then I felt misunderstood. Taking her online quiz confirmed this outcome and described me to a tee. The YouTube video was very accurate. I do avoid people and things and I value my independence to a fault. Through working with Dr. Diane, I've learned the beauty in becoming vulnerable, her online course for independents cemented this as well. I like the science behind it I understand I'm not as low maintenance as I first thought and am communicating better with others. Instead of being annoyed with my friends for needing me, I see that their needs are valid. things. I like how Dr. Diane makes things easy to understand and how quickly her tips work.
Going to therapy was a last resort for my marriage. In fact my wife said, “If you don’t work on yourself, I will leave you.” I didn’t like the pressure I was under but I think it was good because I’ve been motivated to get to the root of my issues. Dr. Diane has been able to explain to me that to no fault of my parents many of my issues come from the way I was raised. I have some defense mechanisms that are tough to change. What I hate is that in some ways I’ve broken each of the members of my family, my wife and kids. I don’t want to be this way, like my Dad or being so angry. We joke that I’m looking for a new brain-like the scarecrow- while I don’t have a new one yet, I can see that my thoughts are changing. My wife has noticed changes in my behavior and I’m hoping it’s not too late to heal my family. I’m trying to think positive and act differently
I started working with Dr. Diane at a low point in my life -- I was recovering from a serious injury, in a very unhealthy relationship, and struggling with depression. I started feeling emotionally stronger and more balanced after our first session. Dr. Diane does an incredible job of helping me reflect on my actions and thought patterns more objectively and working with me to problem solve when I encounter obstacles in my life. Since I began working with Dr. Diane, I have become a much more confident and happier version of myself. I ended my unhealthy relationship and am enjoying dating. My friends have told me this is unusual, but I actually look forward to my sessions with Diane; her dating advice and insight is highly valuable and constructive, and her support has made "getting out there" a lot less intimidating.
“I'm a professional woman with a relatively high profile in the BayArea. After being married for 23 years, I wasn¹t prepared for the 21st century dating model, Diane was instrumental in helping me first get grounded in my life - who was I as a single woman? What did I want my life to be like?  What type of men was I looking for? It was only after working through these areas that I was ready to step out into the dating world. Diane coached me to look at dating as something you have to practice and constantly refine. She also helped me experiment with online dating (without disclosing my identity, which was important to me). Although I didn¹t meet the man of my dreams online, I did meet him through a friend, and I was totally prepared for him to enter my life based on the great work I did with Diane."
"I don't think I could have gone this path alone.  I contacted Diane as a recommendation from a good friend of mine. I knew immediately that she could help me.  I was coming out of bad divorce and needed help and support.  More than anything I needed to know what happened in my marriage, and how I can avoid it from happening again.  According to Diane's SINs model I found out that I am an anxious- puppy type and have always been that way.  When she described her theory, I couldn't believe that she got me so quickly and so many other things fell into place. Dr. Diane helped me get online, referred me to photographer and helped me write my profile.  I am having lots of fun on Match.com and she's helping me sort through the men because she can see things I can't.  I had lots of anxiety dating too so I went on a live Flirting session.  I can't tell you how much fun I had.  Now I know what I'm doing when I'm out in the city and on dates too.  Diane really does tell the Honest Truth which is the advice I needed to get back out there. She's been available to help me calm my nerves and always has the perfect thing to say.  I know my guy is out there, this time I'm ready for him." Thanks Dr. Diane
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

I am in the office most days. I do not work on Wednesday, or weekends, however, in rare circumstances where it is impossible to find other times I may make exceptions.

My office hours are between the hours of 9am-8pm.  Please keep in mind that later appointments tend to book quickly and may need to be scheduled in advance. Feel free to contact me with any questions about my office hours and availability

Individual therapy sessions are 50-60 minutes in length and cost $200 per session.

Couples and family therapy are billed at $210 per hour.

Sessions that are scheduled for longer are prorated using the same hourly rate.

I accept all major credit cards including apple pay, google pay and pay pal.

I do not accept insurance as a form of payment. However, I can offer a statement for reimbursement for you to submit to your insurance provider for out-of-network therapy services. Please contact your insurance provider to make sure your policy includes out-of-network therapy services. If you choose to use your insurance to pay for therapy, I am required to give you a diagnostic code that will go on your permanent medical record.

Most insurance companies do not pay for couples or family counseling as they do not see relationship issues as a medical problem.

I do all my scheduling myself, either on the phone, in person, or through email.  If you need to cancel your appointment, please do so at least 48 hours in advance of your scheduled session time. You will be responsible for the full fee and charged for the time reserved when cancellations are received less than 48 hours in advance.

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