The love you want is possible

(Even if you’re a hopeless romantic, you’ve been let down in the past, and it often feels easier to just be alone.)

Being independent is great...until it isn’t

Tell me if this sounds familiar...

Finding relationships has never been difficult for you. As a good conversationalist and intriguing person, people have always been drawn to you.

But connecting–truly connecting–that’s a different story.

You’re strong and comfortable being alone… but often feel lonely.
You find it easy to begin relationships…but start to freak out when things get serious, worrying that you might be trapped or hurt.
You’re sensitive and reserved…but come across as aloof and unfeeling.
You have high expectations for relationships…but feel pressured to compromise just to connect.

The problem is that you’re caught in patterns you can’t recognize–many go back to your childhood. These patterns are keeping you from the connection you crave. But it doesn’t have to be that way…

It’s possible to connect deeply
and still be you

Understanding your love style is the key

Imagine a version of yourself that’s intimately connected to someone yet still free to have space.
You have confidence that comes from knowing your unique love style, and how to leverage it for your advantage.
You’ve learned to avoid the mistakes and overcome patterns you’ve been stuck in.
You’ve quit sabotaging your chances of happiness, and finally know that more romance is possible.

This transformation is possible when you understand your unique love style (aka “Independent Isabelle or Ian”) and start to take action. The first step is this course (keep reading!).

Secrets for How to be Secure Course -
Independent Isabelle Love Style

Your path to toward understanding your love style and finding success in dating and love

Unlike other dating courses based on conjecture and anecdotes, Secrets for How to be Secure combines the best research-based science that psychology has to offer with tried-and-true relationship techniques that have worked for thousands of others.

Created by a trained psychologist (more about me below!), the techniques in this course get real about what’s holding you back. It’s time to change your ideas about what a healthy relationship is, understand why your independence is hurting you and others, and learn how to change.

The result is magnetism that attracts deep, quality relationships and more romance.

Hi—I’m Dr. Diane, and I help people find deeper love.

As a relationship expert and licensed psychologist (I have an Ed.D. in Counseling Psychology), I’ve helped thousands of men and women find love.

One reason I love my job is that I KNOW THIS STUFF WORKS! When I worked at Stanford on numerous clinical trials, I got the nickname the ‘Bootcamp therapist’ because I learned to give no-nonsense advice and helped people improve their mood fast.

I also know firsthand the anxiety that comes with dating and partnership, and the pressure to find love that lasts.

But success and intimacy in relationships IS POSSIBLE. In fact, I used the exact same techniques and tools to find lasting love (with my husband, Lyle) that I teach others. I know these tools work because they worked for me.

Here are the key lessons myself and thousands of other women have gone through to find love:

The key behind Secrets for How to be
Secure are these life-changing lessons

What’s covered in this dynamic course

Session one

Learn what Attachment Theory is and why it’s so powerful for understanding yourself and others in relationships

Session two

Name It To Tame It
We have some tough talk about how your independence isn’t working for partners, why you need to change, and how to do it.

Session THREE

Body Transformation
You can’t connect with others until you learn to connect with yourself, deal with complex emotions, quit shutting down, and start relaxing WITH a partner (instead of running away). To help, you’ll learn 10 Polyvagal tips for improving your vagal tone (plus the science behind what that is and why it works).

Session FOUR

Story Transformation
It’s time to remove any rose-colored glasses you might be wearing, dive into your family history, and get honest about what you experienced as a child that created your unhealthy patterns. You’ll learn to recognize areas where you’re underdeveloped, grieve what you didn’t get when you were young, and move on to healing.

session FIVE

Mindset Transformation
We debunk your false beliefs that you’re the low maintenance partner (um…you’re not), and that other people are the problem (um…they’re not). Then you’ll learn why interdependence–not independence–is the true goal, and how to get there.

Session SIX

Taking Action In Relationships
We tackle the bad behaviors you’re doing (ex. Ghosting, avoiding, isolating) that are upsetting partners, and how you can do better. You’ll learn how to communicate better, how to embrace healthy conflict, and how to stop being so picky and intellectual in the ways you relate. The result will be you as the more supportive and empathetic person your partner is looking for.

BONUS! Session seven

Advice for singles
Stop being so damn picky, start believing that relationships are workable, and learn how to practice, practice, practice.

BONUS! Session eight

Advice for couples
How to finally stop the rejection and shame cycle and break through to true intimacy.

Session nine

Rinse, wash and repeat
We review everything you’ve learned, and break down the steps you need to take (and repeat) to finally open up, connect, and find the intimacy you (and your partner!) is looking for.

Each lesson in this course comes with activities and exercises you’ll use to shift your patterns, break from bad habits, and learn how to open up.

You’ll also identify how interdependent people operate and what makes them different. After learning their habits, plus how to practice them in your real life, you WILL be the partner someone is searching for.

The cost for these life-changing steps is less than you think… At $99, this course, and the inner security that comes from it, costs less than what you’d pay for one month at the gym.

I promise you won’t be the same.

Relationships and love aren’t a formula, and there’s no such thing as a “guarantee” that you’ll find your perfect match. But here’s what this course does guarantee:

That you’ll have the tools to open up and connect without being overly-guarded
You’ll finally understand why people have been frustrated with you
That you’ll become more relaxed on dates and have fun (truly!)
You’ll have more confidence and better communication skills
You’ll understand what most people want and how their needs are often counter-intuitive to your love style
You’ll learn how to express your sensitive, romantic side by trading independence with interdependence
These things are more than possible—they’re within reach. Sign up for the course and learn the tools that get you there.

These things are more than possible—they’re within reach.
Sign up for the course and learn the tools that get you there

This course is for you if...

You’re tired of sitting on the sidelines watching everyone else find love.
You’ve been let down by relationships in the past but still have hope for true love.
You tend to be guarded and reserved but underneath you crave connection and intimacy.
You have an independent “attachment style” which means that it’s difficult for you to open up and let others in.
You’ve tried to change things but keep experiencing the same patterns and problems.
You find yourself giving up on the effort of romance because being alone is easier

If any one of these feels familiar, it’s time to take the next step. In four weeks you’ll learn life-changing techniques that create lifelong intimacy.

Now is the time to find the connection you’ve been waiting for. Your future relationship is waiting.