Knock-your-socks-off, change your life, surprising, fun, intimate love is still out there for you
(Even if you’re totally okay being single, you don’t have time for drama, and you’re not convinced there’s someone out there secure enough to deal with your confidence.)
I know it’s hard to believe that what
you’re searching for is possible
Tell me if this sounds familiar...
You’re enviably confident and don’t feel insecure being single…but you’re also at risk of missing out on a deep, intimate experience with a partner who enriches your life by challenging and exciting you. Also…
You’re easy-going…but tend to be guilty of slipping into a passive mode, waiting for love to find you.
You are secure and confident in dating and relationships, but write off potential partners early and often if they seem less than perfect.
You’re very stable but rarely ask for help, leaving others to wonder where they stand with you.
The problem is that you’re caught in patterns you can’t recognize–many go back to your childhood. These patterns are keeping you from an exciting, enriching relationship. But it doesn’t have to be that way…
It’s possible to find a relationship that
surprises and excites you
Understanding your love style is the key
Imagine a version of yourself that’s exceptionally confident…but also full of grace for everyone else who isn’t quite to your level of security.
You have insight that comes from knowing your unique love style, and how to leverage it for your advantage.
You’ve learned to avoid the mistakes and overcome patterns you’ve been stuck in.
This transformation is possible when you understand your unique love style (aka “Secure Sophia or Steve”) and start to take action. The first step is this course (keep reading!).
Secrets for How to be Secure Course -
Secure Sophia/Steve Love Style
Your path to toward understanding your love style and finding success in dating and love
Unlike other dating courses based on conjecture and anecdotes, Secrets for How to be Secure combines the best research-based science that psychology has to offer with tried-and-true relationship techniques that have worked for thousands of others.
Created by a trained psychologist (more about me below!), the techniques in this course get real about what’s holding you back. For example, it’s time to relax some of your expectations of others (they don’t tend to be as secure as you, and that’s okay!), and to learn how to foster love by meeting them where they’re at.
The result is your natural, inner security radiating in a way that attracts deep, quality relationships and more romance.
Hi—I’m Dr. Diane, and I help people find deeper love.
As a relationship expert and licensed psychologist (I have an Ed.D. in Counseling Psychology), I’ve helped thousands of men and women find love.
One reason I love my job is that I KNOW THIS STUFF WORKS! When I worked at Stanford on numerous clinical trials, I got the nickname the ‘Bootcamp therapist’ because I learned to give no-nonsense advice and helped people improve their mood fast.
I also know firsthand the anxiety that comes with dating and partnership, and the pressure to find love that lasts.
But success and intimacy in relationships IS POSSIBLE. In fact, I used the exact same techniques and tools to find lasting love (with my husband, Lyle) that I teach others. I know these tools work because they worked for me.
Here are the key lessons myself and thousands of other women have gone through to find love:
The key behind Secrets for
How to be Secure are these life-changing lessons
What’s covered in this dynamic course
Learn what Attachment Theory is and why it’s so powerful for understanding yourself and others in relationships
Name It To Tame It
We have some tough talk about how your independence isn’t working for partners, why you need to change, and how to do it.
You can’t connect with others until you learn to connect with yourself, deal with complex emotions, quit shutting down, and start relaxing WITH a partner (instead of running away). To help, you’ll learn 10 Polyvagal tips for improving your vagal tone (plus the science behind what that is and why it works).
It’s time to remove any rose-colored glasses you might be wearing, dive into your family history, and get honest about what you experienced as a child that created your unhealthy patterns. You’ll learn to recognize areas where you’re underdeveloped, grieve what you didn’t get when you were young, and move on to healing.
We debunk your false beliefs that you’re the low maintenance partner (um…you’re not), and that other people are the problem (um…they’re not). Then you’ll learn why interdependence–not independence–is the true goal, and how to get there.
Taking Action In Relationships
We tackle the bad behaviors you’re doing (ex. Ghosting, avoiding, isolating) that are upsetting partners, and how you can do better. You’ll learn how to communicate better, how to embrace healthy conflict, and how to stop being so picky and intellectual in the ways you relate. The result will be you as the more supportive and empathetic person your partner is looking for.
BONUS! Session seven
Advice for singles
Stop being so damn picky, start believing that relationships are workable, and learn how to practice, practice, practice.
BONUS! Session eight
Advice for couples
How to finally stop the rejection and shame cycle and break through to true intimacy.
Rinse, wash and repeat
We review everything you’ve learned, and break down the steps you need to take (and repeat) to finally open up, connect, and find the intimacy you (and your partner!) is looking for.
Each lesson in this course comes with activities and exercises you’ll use to shift your patterns, break from bad habits, and finally connect in a way that lasts.
You’ll also identify how healthy, secure people use their strengths to help others feel more secure, and how that creates exciting opportunities for love. After learning their habits, plus how to practice them in your real life, you will discover your unique power for fostering exciting opportunities for love.
The cost for these life-changing steps is less than you think…
At $99, this course, and the inner security that comes from it, costs less than what you’d pay for one month at the gym.
I promise you won’t be the same.
Relationships and love aren’t a formula, and there’s no such thing as a “guarantee” that you’ll find your perfect match. But here’s what this course does guarantee:
That you’ll have the tools to diffuse anxiety for both yourself and (more importantly) others
You’ll finally understand why previous romantic relationships have fallen flat
That you’ll become more reassuring on dates and have fun (truly!)
You’ll have even more confidence and stronger boundaries
You’ll understand how your natural security can be both an asset and a weakness, plus what to do about it
You’ll learn how to give more people a chance, and say yes to surprising, enriching love.
These things are more than possible—they’re within reach.
Sign up for the course and learn the tools that get you there
This course is for you if...
You’re bored of sitting on the sidelines watching everyone else find love.
You’re happy being single…but wonder if you’re missing out on a great opportunity for more with someone else.
You’ve been discouraged in the past with the insecurity and “drama” you’ve encountered in past relationships.
You have a secure “attachment style” which means you’re full of confidence…and why that’s not always a good thing.
You’ve tried to change things but keep experiencing the same patterns and problems.
You find yourself giving up on the effort of romance because being alone is easier.
If any one of these feels familiar, it’s time to take the next step. In four weeks you’ll learn life-changing techniques that create lifelong intimacy.