How to Keep Your Independence While in a Relationship

Independent Isabelle feels this deeply. It’s less about avoiding people and more about what is at stake- fear of losing something, your independence.⁠⁠⁠

⁠I named my character Independent Isabelle or Ian for that reason. The independent type feels misunderstood because people don’t understand you. ⁠

They do want to date and hang out but they want time alone too! The dichotomy is a real dilemma, the question is can you have both? ⁠

There is a difference between being emotionally distant and being emotionally available and asking for space. Do you know the difference? ⁠

The goal is to learn how to ask for what you want and need and not to simply disappear or avoid conflict of all types. ⁠

⁠It will be up to you to see the value in your relationship, to recognize that maybe you don’t have to lose anything, but have love to gain. ⁠

⁠Focus on the choices you make and being accountable to the people you date. ⁠

Focus on good communication skills. ⁠

You can speak up and ask for what you want and need versus emotional distancing which can be painful to others. 

Drop a 💛 for my girl Isabelle. ⁠

⁠If you have a partner like Isabelle or Ian, see the link in my bio for my handbook that tells you more about how best to get along. ⁠